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me's avatar

They misinterped it SO bad quit does mot mean silent in anyway😞

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giulia ⭐️'s avatar

!!

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salvatore's avatar

some people want a quiet life and some people want a chaotic one and most people i think would be happiest with a healthy combination of both that aligns to their wants and needs :) what i do know for sure is that the curation + performance of a quiet life is very far from a quiet life and not one i’d personally strive for. thanks for sharing giulia, this was great

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em's avatar

omg i'm writing about this rn!! I can't help but feel like all the "quiet life" girlies are gonna end up regretting not making any impactful experiences and lack meaningful connections because they were too busy "protecting their peace"

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Swabreen Bakr's avatar

This is also why we have a loneliness epidemic. Humans need community!

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Menna Ahmed's avatar

No because "romanticizing the quiet life" turned from looking for beauty in the mundane into self-centerism and It really pmo. Seeing people refusing to acknowledge th genocide in Palestine and take a little simple action as to boycott and not support Zionists just to "keep their peace of mind" is MADDENING

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Minnie's avatar

Fuck a quiet life. There’s no stories of your own to to tell, only stories you’ve read about other people. People need to decentralise aesthetic and ‘cores’ from their lifestyle and actually have experiences themselves, in their own bodies, not vicariously through TikTok. Also, chaos is not the antithesis to quiet. You can go to parties and still get 8 hours of sleep, you can travel to countries that are safe and easy to navigate, you can have a healthy exercise habit and smoke occasionally. I’m sick of things becoming so polarised and one dimensional, we are all complex human beings !!

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yona's avatar

i think i need both to feel whole, i constantly shift between phases where i retreat inward craving to be alone, quiet, wrapped in my thoughts and others where i need to dive into life, explore it in every new way possible

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Soph's avatar

I think it means, like, living at your own pace and feeling safe. Not staying cooped up all day.

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Clementine's avatar

I'd like a quiet life please.

I'm in my twenties and I'd be very happy with a small apartment, a good job, two cats, a nook for my books and of course, my potted plants.

Chaos ain't me. Enjoy I guess

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moons's avatar

i fw this heavy. i personally have/and still want to be able to get to the point where i can live a simplistic ‘quiet life’ but ive come to the realization that, that cant really be done. at least without sounding like an asshole or being one whos disguised by saying “i dont want any problems”. i might write about this later. one of the heaviest points that i would say makes the ‘quiet’ life problematic is the apolitical aspect. turning a blind eye to everything in the world aspect. obviously we’d all love to be able to do that, but in this generation, in this society, its cruelty disguised as non confrontation. we should care about each other and rather we let them experience discrimination, death and more by saying we dont want to be political and yada yada. sorry for the rant and yap lol

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Aeron Hair's avatar

Yeeeeesssss!!! I'm so in rage with exactly this thing too! People use EVERY "lifestyle" excuses to justify not leaving the house, when actually is more a lack of courage to leave the confort zone in most cases. The balance has gone off...

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rose's avatar

I feel so called out. I think you're shouting in both sides of my ears. Fear has always been the reason for this limitation I put on myself to experience life. yeah, so enough consumption but more creating.

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Studio Tom Rowland's avatar

For me, a ‘quiet life’ represents controlling your disconnect from the trappings of consumer capitalism.. And having the freedom to shift away from it when you need to do so.. (Which we all do from time to time)

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Nicolas Slunsky's avatar

I don't disagree. I'm definitely the kind of person who needs to be out there in the big wide world. At the same time, I couldn't care less what others do. Let them quietly waste their lives if they wish. It's their loss.

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Aanuoluwapo's avatar

Thanks for the wake up call 😊

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Shayne Rich's avatar

get loud!!! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️🏰

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twentysomething's avatar

Super interesting read. It makes me think… while COVID impacted all of us, it’s crazy to think about how it specifically impacted those just entering their young adulthood. As soon as the time came to embark on new adventures, get out and explore the world, everything shut down. And with tik tok rotting everyone’s brains (fuck tik tok; I think everyone should delete that shit), many were unable to re-enter society in the same way. Thus, the quiet life, protecting your peace, and staying cooped up inside trend felt more comfortable and natural. Especially amongst those with a more introverted nature. Even just a year of being conditioned to stay inside seemed to fuck a lot of us up. Developing brains really lacked the stimulation and novelty that fully living life gives you. Community is lacking more than ever, as are third spaces. I feel your frustration here and I think there is something to be said about how COVID and the internet have seriously warped the minds of our youth.

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